Being a mom is a beautiful miracle but it can also be extremely exhausting. The pandemic has many moms, and some stay at home dads, feeling more stressed out than ever. Many of us have patience but that can run thin and run out. Sometimes we even end up blowing up on our family members in a fit of rage.
Deena Margolin, child therapist and mom, explains that this rage we feel is part of the "fight or flight" response. Parenting coach, Susan G. Groner, says that the rage response is due to the lack of control over others, which many of us moms can relate to in regards to our family. They suggest a few ways you can deal with these emotions in a healthier way.
Make sure you give yourself a break! You are allowed to be upset, cry and throw a fit too. Sometimes we are harder on ourselves than we need to be. Just because you are a mom does not mean you do not have emotions.
Micromanaging the family just increases your stress. By lowering your expectations it leaves less room for you to be disappointed or upset and hopefully have less rage filled days.
We are always sympathetic, compassionate and understanding of our families' feelings and they should be able to do the same for us. Not only do your kids' feelings matter but yours do too. “Using the phrases like: I feel ____ when ____, or, What would be helpful is _____ can be powerful tools for communicating intense emotions safely. And when a rage-y moment does happen, forgive yourself.”
Stop letting all the little things build up. You essentially are building an emotional bomb that could go off without warning. Learn how to look at those annoyances in a more objective way so they are less triggering. Express yourself through words. This can help teach your family how to cope with their own feelings in a more acceptable way and hopefully be more understanding of mom's feelings.
For social media 'perception is reality' but that is not REAL life. Just because you see other mom's who seem to have the perfect house, children and life does not mean that they do not lose their temper or have messy houses from time to time. We are all human and all have different lives.
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