Most relationships have one thing in common, sex. Some couples have better sex lives than others but intimacy comes in many forms. After surveying 70,000 people in 24 countries John Gottman and Julie Gottman, psychologists, relationship experts and founders of The Gottman Institute, have found common patterns in couples who have great sex lives. Try these non-bedroom tips to keep the fire burning.
Make sure you say "I love you" at least once a day and mean it. Rushing these three words can start making your significant other feel like it is an obligation rather than how you really feel. Make sure you take the time to express your emotions. Your partner will appreciate it more.
Kissing releases hormones that make you feel good. Kiss and kiss often! It can help increase the passion in your relationship.
You always hear women ask to cuddle but it is actually an important part of a good sex life according to the Gottmans. This form of intimate touch releases oxytocin the "love hormone." This can deepen the connection you already have. They said 96% of non-cuddlers reported having a "bad" sex life.
Show your love through affection. That doesn't mean you have to make out but holding hands is a small gesture that can express how you feel in a public setting.
Try making it a point to have a romantic date at least once a week. It doesn't matter what activity you are doing as long as it is together. You can cook a meal, watch a movie or binge watch some tv all while cuddling.
Sometimes a change of scenery is the romantic boost you need. Try to make some time to put your relationship first by skipping town and creating memories together. This can help increase the bond you two already have.
Show your appreciation of your significant other by giving them compliments. It doesn't have to be about their looks. It can just be as simple as acknowledging and showing your gratitude for something they did for you. For example, "I really appreciate you coming to my work event."
Everyone says that you should be good friends with your partner and it turns out that is a key factor in a successful relationship. You should have a strong emotional connection to your partner as well as a healthy friendship.
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