There is an unwritten rule that during intercourse you must be serious but sometimes things can be a bit awkward. Dr. Rebecca Johannsen is an intimacy coordinator who works with actors on how to faux a sex scene in a safe environment. "A lot of sexual unease comes from anticipation of the unknown. The more I can help bring the unknown into the known, the more comfortable I find that an intimate scene becomes," says Dr. Johannsen.
Of course faking intimacy in front a large crew of workers can be uncomfortable and she gives her advice on how to cope with the awkwardness you may have during real-life sex.
She says that lightening the mood by cracking a joke can break that serious tension. When you are physically out of sync with one another that can lead to awkwardness in the bedroom. Dr. Johannsen says if you can laugh at that weird feeling you can "help you embrace the fact that sex is allowed to be funny and enjoy it more easily."
If your partner feels insecure about their body or skills in the boudoir, give them an honest compliment. This can help them relax and feel more confident when it comes to sex. There is no wrong way to do it. Make sure you communicate what is and isn't working so you two can improve upon this activity.
Make sure you check in with your significant other. That doesn't mean you need to stop and have a conversation but by taking the time to make sure each party is comfortable you can increase the chances for eliminating that awkward feeling.
Body language says a lot so pay attention. Non-verbal cues can give you a heads up. If someone is not feeling a situation they will not make eye contact and will be closed off physically. Dr. Rebecca says not to jump to conclusions but ask questions instead. She suggests rather than saying "Wow, you must not be into me because you’re not making eye contact,” try something less judgmental, like, “I noticed you’re not making eye contact. I was wondering, why do you think that is?" By letting your partner explain their feelings not only can you get on the same "sexual wavelength" but you will also show them that you care about how they feel.
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