Most of us have a good idea of what makes a relationship healthy, like developing good communication skills and saying “I love you.” What we’re less clear on? The things that could be damaging our relationships. According to sex expert Tracey Cox, there are certain behaviors that may seem innocent, but can actually sneak up and ruin a perfectly good romance.
These are the “relationship wreckers” Cox warns about:
- Relying on grand gestures to fix problems - What could be wrong with buying surprise tickets for two to Paris? Nothing unless you’re using them as Band-Aid for long-standing problems in the relationship. Sure, the trip is nice, but it can’t fix things or make up for ongoing issues.
- Not laughing at your partner’s jokes - Sharing the same sense of humor helps you enjoy life with someone, but on the flip side, Cox says if you don’t laugh at the same things it’s a sign your world views are dramatically different. And that could be a red flag for your future together.
- Protecting your partner from problems - Maybe it’s because you don’t want them to worry or because you’re afraid they’ll see you differently if you admit you can’t solve everything on your own, but not talking about problems with your S.O. can create distance and make them feel left out.
- Keeping quiet about what you want - Cox points out that the couples who are the happiest with both their relationship and their sex life are the ones who share their true selves. That means revealing your dreams, desires and even the parts of yourself that you’re afraid our partner might not like.
- Not cuddling enough - Snuggling up to your sweetie stimulates production of the hormone oxytocin, which helps couples feel bonded and secure. And one study of 70-thousand people finds cuddling is strongly linked with a couple’s satisfaction with their sex life, 96% of those who don’t cuddle reported having a bad sex life. So cuddle up so you’re not one of them.
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