First dates are kind of like interviews, so using valuable job interview tips can boost your chance of making a good first impression. The thing is, you want to make the conversation with this virtual stranger feel natural while getting the crucial information you need to know about them, so it all comes down to asking the right questions.
These are some of the well-intentioned, but boring or too-vague questions to avoid on a first date:
- “So, what’s your story?” - It’s the romantic pursuits version of “tell me about yourself.”
- “Why are you still single?” - Even if you’re trying to be flirty, this isn’t the way to go.
- “What attracted you to me?” - It’s likely to sound either too arrogant or too insecure, either way, it’s a no.
- “What’s your family like?” - Talking about family is fair game on a first date, but this question is too generic, so try to personalize it a little … and keep it light.
What to ask instead if you actually want to get to know your date:
- “Which holiday is the absolute best one, hands-down?” - It’s playful and the stakes are low, but it opens the door for them to open up about family, traditions and their favorite time of year.
- “What were you like as a kid?” - This gives them a chance to talk about themselves and their personality.
- “Would you rather…” - These kinds of questions can be flirty, deep, or whatever you’re feeling at the time and it tells you about them without them having to reveal too much personal information too soon.
- “What did you do today?” - Sure, it’s basic, but it can be a good ice-breaker so you don’t come on too strong by starting with a “would you rather sleep with your closest friend or your worst enemy?”
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